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10 safety tips women should know when going to their first music festival

10-safety-tipsPhoto by Marc Fong // Written by The Festival Lawyer //

In my life, I have four cool older sisters, the awesome Mrs. Festival Lawyer and a rad little feminista daughter. As Hank Moody would say, “I’m a big fan of women, I have all their albums.”

Lately, I’ve started to wonder how safe festivals and raves are for women. In 2013, there was a report of a sexual assault of a 16 year old girl at Electric Zoo.  Two sexual assaults were reported at the Made in America Festival. Three men allegedly sexually assaulted a teenage girl at Stagecoach in 2012.

Because of that, I thought it might make sense to ask several long time female festivalgoers and ravers what tips they would give to a woman attending her first event. Before we get to the tips we need to discuss the topic of “victim blaming.”  As Leandra Pelonquin, former director of the YWCA Rape clinic explains,  

One of my co-workers was presenting to a college class and said “I’ve gone up to rooms alone with a guy. I have never been raped because I have never been with a rapist.” It is not about the victim, the perpetrator makes that choice. Most men don’t rape, those that do usually have multiple victims throughout their life…Rape is a societal problem, not a self-help issue.

In other words, none of these tips are meant to put the responsibility on women not to get sexually assaulted. Instead, this article is meant to start a dialogue on what we ALL can do to make sure that every festival or rave is as fun, safe and positive for everyone.

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Tip #1 – Go in a group and within that group have a “Festival Buddy” who always has your back

Miami’s “Lady Casa” (@ladycasa305) promotes higher consciousness, good vibes, safety and PLUR through her group PLUR Warriors. Since she has been in the EDM scene for more than ten years, she often acts as a role model and inspiration to younger ravers. Her biggest advice?

Go in a group! I’ve been to a few festivals alone but that was after raving for more than 10 years. As a newbie I highly recommend women go in a group. And within the group have at least one person that you are ALWAYS with! …Getting lost happens. I recommend finding and sticking with a GROUP OF GIRLS if you lose your group. Ravers are friendly and often welcoming. Don’t be afraid to tag along with another GROUP.

(Writers note: Totally agree. In fact, I call having a “Festival Buddy” one of the “Golden Rules” of going to festivals.)  


Tip #2 – If you are a solo female make the crowd aware of your presence 

The “Festival Girl” (@thefestivalgirl) writes a blog specializing in up to the minute live festival coverage (find it here). Because many of her friends live abroad, she often goes to events by herself. She points out the importance of solo fest-goers letting the crowd be aware of their presence so they can assist if there is trouble:

The first thing I do when I arrive to my campsite at a camping festival is visit the neighboring tents and introduce myself. I want people near me to know I’m there. That way, if I go missing, it might occur to someone to say, ‘Hey, where did that girl next door go.’ 


Tip #3Watch out for other people in the crowd even if they are not your “Festival Buddy”

In crowds, there is a psychological phenomenon called “Diffusion of Responsibility.”  Because there are so many people present, everyone assumes that “someone else” in the crowd is already calling the police or helping. Ironically, that means having a LOT of people around you makes it LESS likely that someone will get you help.

The Festival Girl reminds us how important it is for everyone to look out for each other at a festival”

I definitely think it’s important for people in groups to acknowledge solo travelers and extend themselves as surrogate buddies. The crowd can either act as a screen, unintentionally covering up violence against solo fest-goers (especially women), or it can act as a protective entity for those same people…My wish is that fest-goers broaden their collective vision beyond their individual groups of friends and care about everyone in the scene…we’re all in this together.


Tip #4Prepare an “exit strategy” and have a plan for what to do if there is an emergency

Because of of the noise and the chaos of a rave or festival, Lady Casa thinks it’s important to have a designated meeting place and working phone in case of an emergency.

Have an idea of the layout. The entrance, exit, medical tents, water vendors, stages, etc. … It’s critical to have a meeting spot for the end in case you are lost from the group. (Also) charge your cell phone to 100% and if possible take a battery pack case for extra charge. Have at least one number in the group memorized in case you lose your phone. Make sure everyone in the group is accounted for when you make it to the meeting spot at the end.

(Several of my followers point out that if you turn off your WiFi and data on your phone, the phone won’t drain your battery looking for service yet still allows you to receive emergency calls and texts. Also, walkie-talkies seem to be coming on in a big way at festivals.)  


Tip #5Be aware of men looking for “vulnerable” women at raves or fests

Amy Raves” writes about harm reduction and personal safety in her column, “Safer Raving by Amy”. Amy thinks it’s important for women to know their limits, go to raves with people they trust and NEVER to leave with a stranger.

I think festivals should include group/female safety in their info packets. We want to trust/love everyone at a festival but the truth is not everyone is honorable. Predators know these festivals are perfect breeding grounds….some guys, certainly not most, will see vulnerability in a (drunk or high) girl and take advantage of that. Some come to raves looking for girls that are vulnerable.

One of the points of an article like this is to talk about how we as a festival community react when we see a guy treating a drunk or high girl the same way a lion eyes a wounded gazelle. Depending on the situation you may need to get involved. You may need to ask HER (not the guy) if she is okay, get her friends involved or get your friends or staff involved in the situation.  


Tip #6Men need to understand that rape includes sex with someone who is too drunk to consent to the act

I have found that there is a real lack of accurate information as to what the law actually says when it comes to sex with someone who is intoxicated. In fact, California Penal Code Section 261 defines the various types of rape and includes any situation where:

A person is prevented from resisting by any intoxicating or anesthetic substance, or any controlled substance, and this condition was known, or reasonably should have been known by the accused

California law makes it illegal to have sex with someone who is unconscious.  

(Sidenote – hopefully your reaction to this piece of information is “No Shit”) On the other hand it’s not rape when someone consents freely and willfully but alcohol or drugs caused them to make a decision they later regret. 

Okay, but at what point is someone too drunk to give “Legal Consent?” Legally consent means “positive cooperation” and “an exercise of free will.” In other words, the law asks if the person was sober enough to understand all the “consequences of the act” and acted freely and voluntarily. If not, the law considers it a rape.


Tip #7Support festivals and raves that promote safety and positivity

Amy Raves points out that just having a prominent volunteer force (Like Insomniac’s “Ground Control” program) can do wonders for the vibe and safety of an event. 

I love what Insomniac does with its Ground Control program. It’s amazing to see all the purple shirts wandering around, checking on everyone, giving them water & especially looking out for girls that look vulnerable. As a woman, it’s very comforting. Adequate security is important especially with frequent patrolling of the darker corners and nooks of any grounds. These are the places women tend to get cornered.


Tip #8 – Call out festivals or raves when you see safety issues for women

In the same way we give kudos to festivals, I think we need to call out festivals when we see something that we feel doesn’t address a woman’s safety issues.

I was at Austin City Limits last year and I saw a woman laying down with no one seeming to be with her.  She was semi-conscious and occasionally vomiting. Mrs. Fest Lawyer tracked down someone who appeared to be “in charge” and we explained the situation. 

He looked at me and said “Just give her some water and keep an eye on her” and started to walk off.  We had to seriously break down for him that we were showing him a semi-conscious person, lying alone and possibly in medical distress before he would call for help. 

I love ACL. Clearly their decision to cancel parts of the 2nd weekend this year shows they care about their audience’s safety. But this kind of thing really isn’t acceptable at a major music festival.

(FYI, I did give them several chances to address what they think may have happened here. For whatever reason, they have chosen not to. If they do comment on this story, I will of course post their response.) 


Tip #9Don’t take drinks or drugs from strangers

As Lady Casa says,

Festival culture is rich and includes positive and negative influences. Do NOT take drugs offered by strangers or new friends, watch your drinks and only drink from your own new water bottle!

A young woman’s story of how she was allegedly drugged by a stranger at Outside Lands in 2012 went viral recently. It’s a good reminder to be careful and should be read by everyone. 


TIP #10Festival and rave culture needs to have “Zero Tolerance” for sexual violence

Leandra Pelonquin points out that prevention of sexual assault needs to be more “broadly addressed”. In her words we need to make sure that rave and festival culture does not do anything to “condone, normalize, minimize or glamorize sexual violence.”  

Katie Bain, Senior Music Writer for LA Weekly wrote an article (with the mind-blowing title “Guys, Predatory Dance Floor Boners Are Not OK”) describing the problem of guys forcibly grinding on women at EDM shows without their consent and then acting as if this was somehow okay. 

This is a perfect example where the culture has to just say “No, this shit is NOT okay.” The good news is that festival and rave culture is an amazingly positive, diverse and wonderful one. I am routinely amazed at how respectful people are to each at festivals.  It seems like if any culture can have a “Zero Tolerance for creepy behavior,” it will be the Festival community. We just have to become more aware of our surroundings and be more careful with our choices. Being educated is the best way to be safe at any festival, and with help from friends, the rest of the community, and festival organizers and safety staff, everyone can have a positive, safe experience. Have fun festies!!

@FestivalLawyer


 

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  21. Well in the end this did just come off sounding like a “don’t get yourself raped” article. How about one aimed at guys explaining the stuff about being too drunk to give consent? While some men are predators, i bet others are young and get caught up in a situation without thinking it through. They need to be talked to.
    Predators need articles to read too.

    • Sorry but your criticism makes no sense. You say that I should “explain the stuff about being too drunk to give consent” and that it would be good if someone explained it young men but Tip 6 in the article is EXACTLY what you are complaining is not there? Please take another look ” Tip #6 – Men need to understand that rape includes sex with someone who is too drunk to consent to the act” I can’t see how you can complain about me not addressing something that is actually IN the article. Also you complain that I should be more sensitive to “victim blaming” despite the fact that I directly condemn that kind of mentality in the first paragraph of the article. We can’t advance this dialogue if you don’t at least read the article before commenting.

    • If you didn’t check the title correctly: this is an article on festival safety for women. But I totally agree with you that there should be more on festival safety for guys.

  22. I went to EZOO last year and came across #10 – My girl friend and I made friends with a couple. The guy said he was going to refill camel backs and for us all to stay where we were. Some guy began to forcibly grind on my new friend’s gf, so I asked him to stop. He didn’t listen and continued. I doused the guy in water from a bottle to “cool him off” but, what resulted was disgusting. He left and then not 2 minutes later came back with his friends and punched me in the head for telling him to stop dancing with this girl. This turned into more or less a royal rumble. Luckily, my girlfriend and I were with a much larger group of friends who had my back, but the fact still remains, creeps will be creeps whether we want them to or not. If something like this was to happen in the future, I will suggest to everyone to leave the area. For this particular instance, we did not want to move because Knife Party was performing and who the heck would want to leave that!

    THERE IS NO ROOM FOR FIGHTING AT FESTIVALS FELLAS!!! CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE AT THE GATE!!!

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  24. While I agree with everything on here, don’t mistrust every guy you see. Most of us go to festivals to have a good time, and just want to share the experience with you.

  25. Reblogged this on Terry Gotham and commented:
    The Festival Lawyer is back with some super critical tips for avoiding creepsters and other terrible stuff at festivals. May not be necessary for my more varsity ladies out there, and it is a bit gender biased, but still really good information that definitely needs to get spread out. #10 is mandatory for us all.

  26. Elizabeth Welsh says:

    Agree with Karen completely. Also rape kits! We need rape kits at festivals in case something does happen. And they need to be promptly tested, it’s a huge issue! Here’s looking at you Burning Man… Those who feel compelled to rape need to know that there are consequences and they are serious and DNA evidence is pretty hard to refute. A lack of rape kits kinda sends the wrong message no matter how much talk there is about zero tolerance…

  27. Karen Moldovan says:

    When I saw this posted, I was glad to see a conversation about sexual violence at shows, but was then super worried it was going to be all victim blaming. I appreciated the article though and hope it raises some awareness. Ultimately promoting risk reduction for women isn’t the answer, but talking about the issue and calling people out for bullshit creepiness perpetrator behavior is a good start. Because you stated “this article is meant to start a dialogue on what we ALL can do to make sure that every festival or rave is as fun, safe and positive for everyone”, I wish the title had been a bit broader. Something like, “What we can all do to stop sexual violence at shows” would really help create an actual, inclusive dialogue. The reality is being in the presence of a rapist is what causes rape, and we can all create a culture what sexual violence isn’t tolerated.

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